Since I last posted my wife and companion for more than 60 years passed away. She knew about and supported my gender exploration even while we were still in college. When I first joined Tri-Ess our two children learned of my cross dressing.
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Dear Pippin, I am so sorry to hear about your wife. In that one short post it is delightful to hear of her support of you, the longevity of your time together and that your children also knew about your dressing.
Thinking of you all,
Geraldine
Thank you Geraldine. I have been doing more exploration of dressing in clothes typically designed for and worn by women. I enjoy this opportunity and find going grocery shopping this way does not provoke much reaction . I may put on a little lipstick and clip on ear rings. General I wear flats or low heels.
I find your comment about wearing clothes and some makeup to everyday activity like shopping, interesting. We are all different but I think there is a sweet spot between experiencing the deep calm of dressing, or feeling feminine or whatever, being honest about who we understand ourselves to be and living with the integrity of acknowledging those parts, but being able to do all that without drawing undue negative attention to ourselves.
I’d much rather walk in four inch heels, well at least three inch as I age, but the attention I would receive in a shopping environment would place too much stress on me to say nothing of its impact on my wife.
The sweet spot is not stress free. It optimised the stress against the rewards generally.
Keep the makeup subtle but interesting and the heels just on or below the radar and you can continue to strut yourself.
This is learning to grow old, dis-gracefully but with dignity!
Stay young,feminine and well.
Geraldine
Thank you Geraldine for this thoughtful message. I found it quite encouraging particularly as I am entering new areas of relationships. It is one thing to be concerned about reactions and feelings of your wife and children. Last year, three out of four of my grandchildren got married and now one of them is expecting a baby in January. Explaining cross dressing to great grandchildren and to happily married grandchildren may be challenging in new ways. Perhaps I’ll be able to comment on that in a future post.
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Dear Pippin, I am so sorry to hear about your wife. In that one short post it is delightful to hear of her support of you, the longevity of your time together and that your children also knew about your dressing.
Thinking of you all,
Geraldine
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Thank you Geraldine. I have been doing more exploration of dressing in clothes typically designed for and worn by women. I enjoy this opportunity and find going grocery shopping this way does not provoke much reaction . I may put on a little lipstick and clip on ear rings. General I wear flats or low heels.
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I find your comment about wearing clothes and some makeup to everyday activity like shopping, interesting. We are all different but I think there is a sweet spot between experiencing the deep calm of dressing, or feeling feminine or whatever, being honest about who we understand ourselves to be and living with the integrity of acknowledging those parts, but being able to do all that without drawing undue negative attention to ourselves.
I’d much rather walk in four inch heels, well at least three inch as I age, but the attention I would receive in a shopping environment would place too much stress on me to say nothing of its impact on my wife.
The sweet spot is not stress free. It optimised the stress against the rewards generally.
Keep the makeup subtle but interesting and the heels just on or below the radar and you can continue to strut yourself.
This is learning to grow old, dis-gracefully but with dignity!
Stay young,feminine and well.
Geraldine
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Thank you Geraldine for this thoughtful message. I found it quite encouraging particularly as I am entering new areas of relationships. It is one thing to be concerned about reactions and feelings of your wife and children. Last year, three out of four of my grandchildren got married and now one of them is expecting a baby in January. Explaining cross dressing to great grandchildren and to happily married grandchildren may be challenging in new ways. Perhaps I’ll be able to comment on that in a future post.
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